You’re a good person. Not perfect. But, you work hard, try to do the right thing, take reasonably good care of yourself, and abide by most of the laws, rules and conventions of polite society. Yet, when it comes to online dating, your reputation might suffer, if anyone knew. Thank goodness what happens on Match.com stays on Match.com (or any other dating site where you habitually trawl for a soul mate), you sometimes think.

But, here at FlirtySomething, we know you better. Why? Because we’re you. We, or I, FlirtySomething’s Queen Bee, speak from experience. The anonymity of online dating can bring out the worst in our nature. Here are some handy pointers regarding the 7 deadly online dating sins.

1. Lust — obsessive or excessive thoughts or desires of a sexual nature. Please note, we all feel sexy, hopefully, at least some of the time. We like to flirt. We’re not prudes. Just seems to me, if someone wants to tell you about his/her sexuality within the first 10 minutes of meeting, it’s generally a red flag!

2. Gluttony — unreasonable or unnecessary excess of consumption, Gluttony could also include certain forms of destructive behavior, such as substance abuse or binge drinking. Addicts are not catches. If she drinks so much that she can’t remember the love-making, doesn’t bode well!

3. Greed like Lust and Gluttony, is a sin of excess. However, greed applies to the acquisition of wealth in particular. Gold-diggers, male or female, do not true soul mates make. Don’t care how much money someone has. Watch out peeps if the “other” tries to rope you into a full course meal at a 5-star restaurant and concert tickets on the first date. Inappropriate. Pushy. Greedy.

4. Sloth is the sin of laziness, of an unwillingness to act, an unwillingness to care. One sure sign: from the beginning, he complains about driving all the way down to Long Beach from Santa Monica to meet you, even though he finds you so interesting. He has a go-nowhere job. His place hasn’t been cleaned since the pigs ate his sister. Lazy. Forget about it!

5. Wrath. Residual anger about an ex. Let it go, or at least keep it to yourself. Not a good idea to talk about ex’s very much to someone new. And especially not if you are still filled with wrath. ”

6. Envy. Unless you are in a mutually committed relationship (in which two people should always hide their online dating profiles), you have no right to begrudge anyone their freedom. Often dating sites enable people to pry into each other’s personal business. You can see if someone you’re interested in is online. Watchout! Don’t become an e-stalker! Check your jealousy at the login screen.

7. Pride. Overweening self-love, self-esteem. Sure, it’s good to accept yourself, and there is such a thing as too humble, too self-deprecating, I suppose. But what’s up with people who love themselves to pieces. I’m reminded of so many ladies and gentlemen who describe themselves too pridefully in their profiles. Such blind pride is a big turnoff.

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