Three Blessings of Being Single
February 4th, 2010 by Queen Bee
1. You’re not in a bad relationship. With upwards of 50% of first marriages in America ending in divorce, and the rates sky-rocketing even higher for subsequent marriages, and considering the substantial downside to divorce, one can only surmise that many, maybe even the majority of relationships are unhappily unhappy. No matter whether it’s the mythology of the “perfect relationship” that dooms so many to failure, or the shifting sands of gender roles, or the natural evolution of society away from the “traditional” nuclear family — who knows? But the fact remains that being single sure as heck beats feeling trapped and miserable in a relationship. So, be careful what you wish for, and appreciate what you have. Freedom to come and go as you please, peace and quiet in abundance, and a world of possibilities in terms of who you might meet this afternoon for coffee!
2. You get to flirt. And flirting is so much fun. One of FlirtySomething’s most formidable competitors just so happens to have posted a pretty good primer on the hows and whys of flirting for fun. Of course, flirting can be a prelude to something more serious. But, don’t jump the gun. Enjoy the game, and don’t sweat the outcome. By-products of flirting include sharpening your mind and bolstering your self-confidence. And, it’s excellent practice for what to do when someone special does come along.
3. You can fantasize without guilt. Not only that, sexual fantasies are normal and healthy, the weirder the better according to some research on the subject. It’s just that the mythology surrounding them makes them verboten for many if not most couples to enjoy together. Of course your fantasies are wild and kinky and something even taboo. That’s why they’re called fantasies. Yes, sometimes we actualize our fantasies, so they become reality. Truth be known, they’re usually more exciting as figments of our imagination. Either which way, being single allows one the freedom to enjoy fantasies with impunity, unfettered by the shackles and constraints that relationships tend to place on such flights of sexual fancy.
